Has anyone else encountered a person like this?
Upon moving into the International House at my university this semester, I met a young Masters student from Norway. I had never met a Scandinavian before and, sadly, tend to romanticize things way too much (particularly foreign men). We spent a good part of the Welcome Week discussing all manner of topics...and then I was in his room one night, one thing led to another, and we slept together. I told him I wanted to wait and warned him beforehand that I get emotionally attached but he pushed and I gave in. Afterwards, we cuddled and he starts talking about how I should let him know if our relationship is moving too fast or too slow and that he never wants to hurt me or our friendship. Then, we sleep together again. The next day, he tells me that he wants no commitment and has never, in fact, had a relationship because he likes to 'keep his options open' Mind you, this guy is 27. I asked him if this was due to a tragic experience in the past or perhaps he has not found the right woman--he said that nothing triggered it, it is just how he is. He has traveled all over Russia, sleeping with who knows what and says that most girls there are just gold diggers...okay, my father is a physician; I have no use for this guy's money. Unfortunately, rejection only makes my lust stronger and so, we continued hooking up semi-periodically for the next month (he lives across the hall from me). Then, one day after I sent him a suggestive text message, he messages me on Facebook and says that we should stop 'being lovers' because I am becoming emotionally attached. He said that 'he simply does not want a sexual or romantic relationship with me, just like he doesn't want one with 99.9% of the people he meets, and it just took him a bit to figure it out in our case.' I think the real issue was that, as he is big on 'spontaneity', any time I try to schedule a hook-up, he finds it mundane and expected (in the beginning, he had suggested that we meet every week, but men change their mind faster than you can blink). I then explained to him that any attraction I had to him was purely physical (this was actually true). So a month later, we encounter each other in the hall at 1 am and he invites me in...and we end up at it again...I asked him why, as he'd said he didn't want to be lovers anymore and he just said that he was 'still attracted to me'. We slept together one time after that, but in retrospect, I allowed him to contact me after he told me we should stop seeing each other, I let him come to me. Still, I feel rotten because every time we were together, he would not reciprocate certain pleasure acts I'd perform (even though he told me he does perform them on some women), and he had a fascination with anal play...something just felt creepy but I was not fully satisfied unless we were together. Every session, I was feeling less and less respect until I finally broke it off last week, and stated that I heard him speaking with a girl in his room and this did not bother me as much as it once would have (I am a possessive partner). I then informed him that I may be finally able to 'stop wasting my time on him', as he put it. At first, I didn't understand why he would keep contacting me if he wanted me 'off his tail', so to speak. I am aware that I allowed myself to be used...but i suppose that I was also using him to some extent. This is a guy with whom I cannot have a normal conversation...only debates or the receiving end of his criticism. He also informed me that he does not answer when his parents call him from home because they call at the same hour every day and that he finds this 'mundane'. I realize that he has little emotional capacity, but I am just wondering if anyone else has met a similar type of character? I can honestly say that he is the oddest I have yet encountered... P.s. Kudos if you managed to read this entire passage. : )
Psychology - 3 Answers
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Yeeeaahh, it definitely sounds like he has problems. It sucks that you got so mixed up with him, but shiznit just seems to happen that way I guess. Hopefully this is just a stage (early mid-life crisis maybe?) and he'll get over it someday. From reading that he sleeps around a lot, I just hope y'all used protection so that you don't catch anything.
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My ex was like this guy. Except he had the gift of gab so somehow everything managed to have a positive spin to it. Seriously the guy is a douche and needs to get off his high horse. Seriously no one cares about how many women his been with or what he finds "mundane". His so typically atypical its a joke. His clearly playing into the whole "foreign guy experience". If he truly is like the guy he pretends to be then he wouldn't have contacted you again after he said he was done with you. I hope your done with him and never give him the time of day again. You deserve so much better than what that ass hole would ever dream of giving you.
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Thanks, I read the entire passage. Whilst I have not been in this situation, I know the kind of person you're talking about. It's a European thing, trust me. I was born in Europe and lived there for the first few years of my life, until I was 4, when I moved to Australia. I have lived here ever since but I go home for 8 weeks at the end of every year. Because I've lived in Australia, when I go to Europe I notice the difference with the guys there. A lot of them are exactly the way you've described. Especially Scandanavians. I don't know why, but all of the Scandanavians I have ever met have been like that. They seem cold, distant and unemotional. I have also encountered a lot of Dutch guys who are like this. So I guess it's localized within Northern and North-Western Europe. Those guys are really weird and a lot of them are extremely perverted and have a really dark sense of humor. Idk I even see it on youtube. But what can you do? Some people are just weird.
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Best place in the world to live a simple life?
Best place in the world to live a simple life?
I am young (taking a break from college) and have a love for living simply. There is nothing more I love than nature and detest the direction in which our world is turning. Don't get me wrong, I am not what people would call a hippy..though I am free spirited! I am very crafty and handy, spending considerable amounts of my free time building/carving or something of the like. I feel like I'm myself mostly in the outdoors..in recreation...or work. I like gardening and would love to grow my own food. I enjoy "primitive" hunting, as well as fishing and trapping (by instruments of my own design). Currently I work at a health foods store and desire nothing more than to move elsewhere. Somewhere that is quiet and I can build my own house etc. Somewhere the economy is naturally based and not fast paced like it is..here in the chicago area. My fiancee is interested in living in "earthships" if you've heard of them, and i'd be glad to build such a house. I've considered Oregon and Washington (I love cold, wet and green places), though I want to move somewhere far away. British Columbia and Alaska are two other options... What about Iceland, Greenland, Norway, Sweden or New Zealand? (I love mountains!) I don't know and I don't have much money. My only wish is to just get up and leave..start someplace new and live simply. If you want to make me feel bad, or talk me out of it....tell me how irrational I am or how stupid this is... go ahead, I just won't read or respond. Don't waste your finger strength. But if you have any advice or helpful websites, books etc or encouragement...please enlighten me! Thanks in advance. Sorry this is so weird. 0z
Green Living - 9 Answers
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New Zealand is beautiful :D
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I recommend Alachua, Florida. We have a big farm full of Hare Krishna devotees, you sound like you'd fit right in. The Hare Krsnas are all about vegetarianism, equality, and getting rid of what makes us miserable, which are our own desires. :)
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Live in a quiet place..like in the.country! Its very calm.and simple!
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Ketchikan, Alaska. Close to the mainland. Rains a lot. Interesting village.
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Easy, I would go to the Canadian Rockies if they would let you in or Vermont. From what I have heard there is a huge group of independent off the grid homes in Vermont. If you don't already get Mother Earth I would try this and I think there are other books and magazines that deal with living a simple life. I have an Uncle who lives near Yellowstone who may have running water but lives a very simple life.
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Antartica
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Some people have same thinking in their mind,you have chance hear to ask a question, Make a personal visit and select the place.
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NOT Sweden, you're not going to get any value for your money. To be happy here you need a lot of money so it's not the best country to go to if you want to live a happy but simple life. Plus, there aren't that many mountains. I think you should go to New Zealand, it seems like a beautiful country!
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Madison, WI...nature, simple, access to good things....
I am young (taking a break from college) and have a love for living simply. There is nothing more I love than nature and detest the direction in which our world is turning. Don't get me wrong, I am not what people would call a hippy..though I am free spirited! I am very crafty and handy, spending considerable amounts of my free time building/carving or something of the like. I feel like I'm myself mostly in the outdoors..in recreation...or work. I like gardening and would love to grow my own food. I enjoy "primitive" hunting, as well as fishing and trapping (by instruments of my own design). Currently I work at a health foods store and desire nothing more than to move elsewhere. Somewhere that is quiet and I can build my own house etc. Somewhere the economy is naturally based and not fast paced like it is..here in the chicago area. My fiancee is interested in living in "earthships" if you've heard of them, and i'd be glad to build such a house. I've considered Oregon and Washington (I love cold, wet and green places), though I want to move somewhere far away. British Columbia and Alaska are two other options... What about Iceland, Greenland, Norway, Sweden or New Zealand? (I love mountains!) I don't know and I don't have much money. My only wish is to just get up and leave..start someplace new and live simply. If you want to make me feel bad, or talk me out of it....tell me how irrational I am or how stupid this is... go ahead, I just won't read or respond. Don't waste your finger strength. But if you have any advice or helpful websites, books etc or encouragement...please enlighten me! Thanks in advance. Sorry this is so weird. 0z
Green Living - 9 Answers
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New Zealand is beautiful :D
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I recommend Alachua, Florida. We have a big farm full of Hare Krishna devotees, you sound like you'd fit right in. The Hare Krsnas are all about vegetarianism, equality, and getting rid of what makes us miserable, which are our own desires. :)
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Live in a quiet place..like in the.country! Its very calm.and simple!
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Ketchikan, Alaska. Close to the mainland. Rains a lot. Interesting village.
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Easy, I would go to the Canadian Rockies if they would let you in or Vermont. From what I have heard there is a huge group of independent off the grid homes in Vermont. If you don't already get Mother Earth I would try this and I think there are other books and magazines that deal with living a simple life. I have an Uncle who lives near Yellowstone who may have running water but lives a very simple life.
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Antartica
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Some people have same thinking in their mind,you have chance hear to ask a question, Make a personal visit and select the place.
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NOT Sweden, you're not going to get any value for your money. To be happy here you need a lot of money so it's not the best country to go to if you want to live a happy but simple life. Plus, there aren't that many mountains. I think you should go to New Zealand, it seems like a beautiful country!
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Madison, WI...nature, simple, access to good things....
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
How, by the following definition, is North Korea socialist/communist [Link to earlier question]?
How, by the following definition, is North Korea socialist/communist [Link to earlier question]?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhlU9jY_AZ2SAQgC830Pz1Lsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100804103921AANe0uD If you aren't going to bother reading the definition, and answering according to this definition, don't even bother answering in the first place. And by extension, everything else people seem to recognise as socialist/communist? In this thread please use the definition below, for the sake of figuring if north korea is socialist/communist. If you are not going to do that, don't bother answering. This isn't a thread saying socialism will work, it's a thread challenging the commonly held views about what socialism is. First off, my views as a socialist do not mesh with the ideas of many who call themselves socialists; I have heavy disagreements with social democrats, democratic socialists, trotskyites, leninists, deleonists, maoists, and stalinists. Therefore the definition I give will not match their definition. Second, I would like to make clear that when I say socialism or communism, I use these two words to refer to the exact same thing, not as seperate ideologies or one as a transitional phase and the other as some obscure utopia. My definition of socialism/communism is a society in which the people themselves share ownership and control the land and the means of production, through direct democracy. Essentially it's the extension of democracy to every quarter of society, the home, the workplace, and the community at large. A socialist society can only exist when the vast majority of the world population wants it to; there is no buying a plot of land and forming your own commune, as socialism can't exist while capitalism does. The people themselves then establish the socialist society democratically, through a revolution. In a socialist society, the following should apply: The socialist society has no monetary or barter system, there is no money and no trade, a socialist society has a gift economy. The socialist society is leaderless, since leaders are inherently undemocratic. The people themselves are in charge, administrating through a global direct democracy. The socialist society is stateless. Essentially, state is the power to use force legally against people. Socialism can't work in a coercive system. As well the existence of a state would undermine a classless society. The socialist society is borderless and global. Socialism can't exist in one country, nor can it exist while capitalism exists. The socialist society is classless. There are no upper and lower classes, no elites and no poor, and there is no state. So your turn. Does north korea fit the definition above? Did the soviet union? Does china? How bout cuba, vietnam, or cambodia? Do France, Norway, Canada, Sweden, Denmark, or any of those european countries fit the definition? Does obama fit the above definition of socialism?
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north Korea is a dictatorship there is no Kim Jung IL in a socialist model
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhlU9jY_AZ2SAQgC830Pz1Lsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100804103921AANe0uD If you aren't going to bother reading the definition, and answering according to this definition, don't even bother answering in the first place. And by extension, everything else people seem to recognise as socialist/communist? In this thread please use the definition below, for the sake of figuring if north korea is socialist/communist. If you are not going to do that, don't bother answering. This isn't a thread saying socialism will work, it's a thread challenging the commonly held views about what socialism is. First off, my views as a socialist do not mesh with the ideas of many who call themselves socialists; I have heavy disagreements with social democrats, democratic socialists, trotskyites, leninists, deleonists, maoists, and stalinists. Therefore the definition I give will not match their definition. Second, I would like to make clear that when I say socialism or communism, I use these two words to refer to the exact same thing, not as seperate ideologies or one as a transitional phase and the other as some obscure utopia. My definition of socialism/communism is a society in which the people themselves share ownership and control the land and the means of production, through direct democracy. Essentially it's the extension of democracy to every quarter of society, the home, the workplace, and the community at large. A socialist society can only exist when the vast majority of the world population wants it to; there is no buying a plot of land and forming your own commune, as socialism can't exist while capitalism does. The people themselves then establish the socialist society democratically, through a revolution. In a socialist society, the following should apply: The socialist society has no monetary or barter system, there is no money and no trade, a socialist society has a gift economy. The socialist society is leaderless, since leaders are inherently undemocratic. The people themselves are in charge, administrating through a global direct democracy. The socialist society is stateless. Essentially, state is the power to use force legally against people. Socialism can't work in a coercive system. As well the existence of a state would undermine a classless society. The socialist society is borderless and global. Socialism can't exist in one country, nor can it exist while capitalism exists. The socialist society is classless. There are no upper and lower classes, no elites and no poor, and there is no state. So your turn. Does north korea fit the definition above? Did the soviet union? Does china? How bout cuba, vietnam, or cambodia? Do France, Norway, Canada, Sweden, Denmark, or any of those european countries fit the definition? Does obama fit the above definition of socialism?
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north Korea is a dictatorship there is no Kim Jung IL in a socialist model
Saturday, July 28, 2012
How to convince parents to let me backpack through europe at 16 ( forget to mention something)?
How to convince parents to let me backpack through europe at 16 ( forget to mention something)?
When I am 16, I want to backpack through Europe on my own for about 4 months. I can get the money needed but how can parents be convinced to let me do this, on my own. I am very responsible person and do not try and get into bad situations. I speak some French and some Russian so would that be any reason to let me do what I want to do, This will be only chance. The countries that would be seting foot on are. So how how much would I need to bring , money? Would being with my best friend make them more likely to let me go At 16 can I legally do what is wanted without permission? Dublin, Ireland Reykjavik, Iceland Oslo, Norway Stockholm, Sweden Tampere, LS, Finland St. Petersburg, Russia Moscow, Russia Yerevan, Armenia Jerusalem, Israel Chisinau, Moldova Athens, Greece Tirana, Albania Belgrade, Serbia Podgorica, Montenegro Budapest, Hungary Zagreb, Croatia Rome, Italy Malta Madrid, Spain Andorra La Vella, Andorra Paris, France Brussels, BRU, Belgium Amsterdam, Netherlands Should I be allowed to do this?
Other - Europe - 3 Answers
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Ermmm....good luck? I'm not sure, MAYBE your parents would let you do it. There are some things you need to learn about Europe. 1. It's VERY expensive compared to the U.S. You would need thousands and thousands of dollars to do this. 2. There are big cities, surrounded by miles and miles of beautiful countryside. The places of attraction would be the cities, where you could be mugged or knifed very easily. Crimes like that happen much more, especially if they can tell you are an American tourist. 3. You'd need to take ferries to get to some of these places. Also expensive. 4. You couldn't possibly get to all of these places in one trip; even if that trip lasted for the entire summer. You might be able to accomplish it in a year or two. Probably two. 5. There's legal issues. I'm not sure if the actual trip is legal or not, but think about: passports, border crossings, how long it's legal for you to stay without a visa, etc . 6. Places like: St. Petersburg, Moscow, Armenia, Israel, Moldova, Albania, Serbia, Montenegro, Hungary, and Croatia will seem very poor compared to where you come from. You won't be able to feel comfortable or at home, and your living arrangements will be filthy and INCREDIBLY EXTREMELY UNGODLY expensive. 7. What if you get sick and need to go to the hospital? In Germany and France you'll be all right, but in Albania? No, I really don't think so. 8. In Israel, there's constant fighting and shooting. Bombs. So, as an overview, if your parents DO let you go, then they're looking to get rid of you. However, If you were to go to less places WITH your parents, you could even to to Israel and Albania. It would be a much more pleasant experience with your parents. You'll be in for lots of culture shocks, especially in Eastern Europe.
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I'm only 24 and we don't have any kids yet, maybe in two years, but if you were my Kid, I'd give you a big fuzzy and ask you to chill until you were 18 which makes most of your activities legal while on your own. I would encourage you to travel the US for a month of the summer to get some practice where we could always reach each other if needed, and stay in contact, and would be better if your best friend went with you. Your well being would be one of the most important things in the world besides my Lady to Me! :- ) You need to go and fulfill this dream cuz it would be the most amazing experience and there are things that fill in your education beyond what school can offer, besides it's going to be allot of fun and just awesome so long as you continue your education plans when you get back. From your writing, I would be amazing proud of you, not about me, but about you! You should be doing this trip at 18 and not 16 for more life experience and legal reasons. If you have a means of travel money now, by 18 you could have even more. Me! :- )
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You've already asked this question 7 times; how many times do you need to see the word NO before you realize that your parents are right and you are wrong? What fallacy makes you think this is your only chance? That is total nonsense. Your list is ridiculous for a single trip of a seasoned adult traveler; it is total insanity for a child. Most of those places won't permit to stay in a hotel alone; some won't let you enter the country unaccompanied. The cost will be astronomical; £10.000 to £15.000 easily, maybe more. The travel to all those places will be huge, and accomodations - even a hostelry - for 4 months (120 nights) would be thousands. Perhaps you should ask your parents what it cost them to have you in their home for 4 months - the answer will shock you! The visas you will need will cost hundreds, and if they knew you were traveling alone the would deny the visa - especially Russia. So you speak a little French and a little Russian - enough to get around? Or only a few random words? What about Flemish, Spanish, Maltese, Croatian, Serbian, Albanian, Greek, Moldovan (Romanian), Hebrew, Armenian, Finnish, Norwegian, or Icelantic? To answer your quesion: NO - you should not be given permission to do this. NO - you are forbidden by law from leaving home without permission. You will be labelled a runaway and hunted down like a fugitive. Even asking such a question proves you lack the responsibility or maturity to be let out of your home without supervision - let alone out of the country.
When I am 16, I want to backpack through Europe on my own for about 4 months. I can get the money needed but how can parents be convinced to let me do this, on my own. I am very responsible person and do not try and get into bad situations. I speak some French and some Russian so would that be any reason to let me do what I want to do, This will be only chance. The countries that would be seting foot on are. So how how much would I need to bring , money? Would being with my best friend make them more likely to let me go At 16 can I legally do what is wanted without permission? Dublin, Ireland Reykjavik, Iceland Oslo, Norway Stockholm, Sweden Tampere, LS, Finland St. Petersburg, Russia Moscow, Russia Yerevan, Armenia Jerusalem, Israel Chisinau, Moldova Athens, Greece Tirana, Albania Belgrade, Serbia Podgorica, Montenegro Budapest, Hungary Zagreb, Croatia Rome, Italy Malta Madrid, Spain Andorra La Vella, Andorra Paris, France Brussels, BRU, Belgium Amsterdam, Netherlands Should I be allowed to do this?
Other - Europe - 3 Answers
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Ermmm....good luck? I'm not sure, MAYBE your parents would let you do it. There are some things you need to learn about Europe. 1. It's VERY expensive compared to the U.S. You would need thousands and thousands of dollars to do this. 2. There are big cities, surrounded by miles and miles of beautiful countryside. The places of attraction would be the cities, where you could be mugged or knifed very easily. Crimes like that happen much more, especially if they can tell you are an American tourist. 3. You'd need to take ferries to get to some of these places. Also expensive. 4. You couldn't possibly get to all of these places in one trip; even if that trip lasted for the entire summer. You might be able to accomplish it in a year or two. Probably two. 5. There's legal issues. I'm not sure if the actual trip is legal or not, but think about: passports, border crossings, how long it's legal for you to stay without a visa, etc . 6. Places like: St. Petersburg, Moscow, Armenia, Israel, Moldova, Albania, Serbia, Montenegro, Hungary, and Croatia will seem very poor compared to where you come from. You won't be able to feel comfortable or at home, and your living arrangements will be filthy and INCREDIBLY EXTREMELY UNGODLY expensive. 7. What if you get sick and need to go to the hospital? In Germany and France you'll be all right, but in Albania? No, I really don't think so. 8. In Israel, there's constant fighting and shooting. Bombs. So, as an overview, if your parents DO let you go, then they're looking to get rid of you. However, If you were to go to less places WITH your parents, you could even to to Israel and Albania. It would be a much more pleasant experience with your parents. You'll be in for lots of culture shocks, especially in Eastern Europe.
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I'm only 24 and we don't have any kids yet, maybe in two years, but if you were my Kid, I'd give you a big fuzzy and ask you to chill until you were 18 which makes most of your activities legal while on your own. I would encourage you to travel the US for a month of the summer to get some practice where we could always reach each other if needed, and stay in contact, and would be better if your best friend went with you. Your well being would be one of the most important things in the world besides my Lady to Me! :- ) You need to go and fulfill this dream cuz it would be the most amazing experience and there are things that fill in your education beyond what school can offer, besides it's going to be allot of fun and just awesome so long as you continue your education plans when you get back. From your writing, I would be amazing proud of you, not about me, but about you! You should be doing this trip at 18 and not 16 for more life experience and legal reasons. If you have a means of travel money now, by 18 you could have even more. Me! :- )
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You've already asked this question 7 times; how many times do you need to see the word NO before you realize that your parents are right and you are wrong? What fallacy makes you think this is your only chance? That is total nonsense. Your list is ridiculous for a single trip of a seasoned adult traveler; it is total insanity for a child. Most of those places won't permit to stay in a hotel alone; some won't let you enter the country unaccompanied. The cost will be astronomical; £10.000 to £15.000 easily, maybe more. The travel to all those places will be huge, and accomodations - even a hostelry - for 4 months (120 nights) would be thousands. Perhaps you should ask your parents what it cost them to have you in their home for 4 months - the answer will shock you! The visas you will need will cost hundreds, and if they knew you were traveling alone the would deny the visa - especially Russia. So you speak a little French and a little Russian - enough to get around? Or only a few random words? What about Flemish, Spanish, Maltese, Croatian, Serbian, Albanian, Greek, Moldovan (Romanian), Hebrew, Armenian, Finnish, Norwegian, or Icelantic? To answer your quesion: NO - you should not be given permission to do this. NO - you are forbidden by law from leaving home without permission. You will be labelled a runaway and hunted down like a fugitive. Even asking such a question proves you lack the responsibility or maturity to be let out of your home without supervision - let alone out of the country.
Saturday, July 14, 2012
Should I feel this way?
Should I feel this way?
Hello. I have been feeling quite lonely these past few weeks. Actually, it's been persisting for several years, on and off. My name is Victor. I live in Southern California, with my mother. The place I live in is probably one of the whiter communities in So Cal. My mother separated from my dad when I was little. I'm guessing they felt the relationship vibe for a little while, then they just split. I noticed this happens to some interracial relationships. You see, my father is Mexican and my mother's parents come from Norway and Ireland. I guess that makes me biracial, but in the eyes of my school, I'm Hispanic. I remember one time my mother came to a student-teacher conference, and they asked where my mother was and I said that was here and they then said "Don't be silly, that's some random woman." As I said before, I live in one of the whiter communities in Southern California. I visit my dad sometimes on weekends in Lincoln Heights, a largely Mexican-American area, however the visitation is limited. I live with my mother the other times and I feel disconnected from my Hispanic counterparts. In my town, if you're Mexican, you came here to work with either a hammer or broom in your hand. My classmates make horrible jokes about people of Mexican descent and I'm the only Mexican in the grade. People don't even know my name, they just refer to me as Victor. In history class, the teacher said that Mexico was taken over by the Spaniards because the Mayans were weak. I couldn't speak up, I couldn't say anything. My mom has a decent amount of money, so we aren't as economically deprived as other Chicanos. Everyday is basically the same. Come home, sleep, eat, wake, go to the hell that is school, repeat. No fun on weekends, no one to hangout with. Now I can understand what my father was talking about when he was telling me about the Mexican experience in the United States. He told me about lots of alienation. I'm starting to think that the world is a great place if you're white. I wonder if I should leave home and try and to make it on my own.
Adolescent - 2 Answers
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its normal to feel that way..been there done that. but look...try to connect with you dad side of the family..if that doesn't work..learn to except the fct you are who you are...and maybe try to get out more..your mom has money right??..get her to let you go a summer adventure..try going abroad..the U.S. isn't as friendly as the people over there in Spain..France..{The french are actually nice..lol}..there wesites you can go to that have trips to go abroad either for a internship or just to have an exxperience of a life time...trust me..get out that wack ass community and get some friends who understand you or if not understand..at least except you for who you are...
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Have pride in your heritage. And speak up! The Mayans were not weak (btw) the Spaniards carried diseases, had horses, and more advanced weapons, taking the Mayans by storm. (Well this is what MY teacher told us...) And there are two type of Mexicans: the many who come to work here for pay that is less than dandy, and those who come and live comfortably with permanent jobs and homes in the U.S. But for some reason we are so prideful about where we come from. And maybe you should go somewhere for summer vacation. Maybe somewhere you can see where being a Latino isn't so bad. The world isn't that great for anyone: my school is mostly Hispanic, and most of the Hispanics here, makes jokes about white people... Either way, we all make jokes about each other. And plus, I know how that feeling of not belonging somewhere feels; me and my father once got followed around a Best Buy for two hours, because one of the employees thought we were going to steal something because we couldn't afford it. i.e, my father is Police Officer, who is from Guadalajara, Mexico, and a U.S citizen. :D
Hello. I have been feeling quite lonely these past few weeks. Actually, it's been persisting for several years, on and off. My name is Victor. I live in Southern California, with my mother. The place I live in is probably one of the whiter communities in So Cal. My mother separated from my dad when I was little. I'm guessing they felt the relationship vibe for a little while, then they just split. I noticed this happens to some interracial relationships. You see, my father is Mexican and my mother's parents come from Norway and Ireland. I guess that makes me biracial, but in the eyes of my school, I'm Hispanic. I remember one time my mother came to a student-teacher conference, and they asked where my mother was and I said that was here and they then said "Don't be silly, that's some random woman." As I said before, I live in one of the whiter communities in Southern California. I visit my dad sometimes on weekends in Lincoln Heights, a largely Mexican-American area, however the visitation is limited. I live with my mother the other times and I feel disconnected from my Hispanic counterparts. In my town, if you're Mexican, you came here to work with either a hammer or broom in your hand. My classmates make horrible jokes about people of Mexican descent and I'm the only Mexican in the grade. People don't even know my name, they just refer to me as Victor. In history class, the teacher said that Mexico was taken over by the Spaniards because the Mayans were weak. I couldn't speak up, I couldn't say anything. My mom has a decent amount of money, so we aren't as economically deprived as other Chicanos. Everyday is basically the same. Come home, sleep, eat, wake, go to the hell that is school, repeat. No fun on weekends, no one to hangout with. Now I can understand what my father was talking about when he was telling me about the Mexican experience in the United States. He told me about lots of alienation. I'm starting to think that the world is a great place if you're white. I wonder if I should leave home and try and to make it on my own.
Adolescent - 2 Answers
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its normal to feel that way..been there done that. but look...try to connect with you dad side of the family..if that doesn't work..learn to except the fct you are who you are...and maybe try to get out more..your mom has money right??..get her to let you go a summer adventure..try going abroad..the U.S. isn't as friendly as the people over there in Spain..France..{The french are actually nice..lol}..there wesites you can go to that have trips to go abroad either for a internship or just to have an exxperience of a life time...trust me..get out that wack ass community and get some friends who understand you or if not understand..at least except you for who you are...
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Have pride in your heritage. And speak up! The Mayans were not weak (btw) the Spaniards carried diseases, had horses, and more advanced weapons, taking the Mayans by storm. (Well this is what MY teacher told us...) And there are two type of Mexicans: the many who come to work here for pay that is less than dandy, and those who come and live comfortably with permanent jobs and homes in the U.S. But for some reason we are so prideful about where we come from. And maybe you should go somewhere for summer vacation. Maybe somewhere you can see where being a Latino isn't so bad. The world isn't that great for anyone: my school is mostly Hispanic, and most of the Hispanics here, makes jokes about white people... Either way, we all make jokes about each other. And plus, I know how that feeling of not belonging somewhere feels; me and my father once got followed around a Best Buy for two hours, because one of the employees thought we were going to steal something because we couldn't afford it. i.e, my father is Police Officer, who is from Guadalajara, Mexico, and a U.S citizen. :D
Saturday, July 7, 2012
should I feel this way?
should I feel this way?
Hello. I have been feeling quite lonely these past few weeks. Actually, it's been persisting for several years, on and off. My name is Victor. I live in Southern California, with my mother. The place I live in is probably one of the whiter communities in So Cal. My mother separated from my dad when I was little. I'm guessing they felt the relationship vibe for a little while, then they just split. I noticed this happens to some interracial relationships. You see, my father is Mexican and my mother's parents come from Norway and Ireland. I guess that makes me biracial, but in the eyes of my school, I'm Hispanic. I remember one time my mother came to a student-teacher conference, and they asked where my mother was and I said that was here and they then said "Don't be silly, that's some random woman." As I said before, I live in one of the whiter communities in Southern California. I visit my dad sometimes on weekends in Lincoln Heights, a largely Mexican-American area, however the visitation is limited. I live with my mother the other times and I feel disconnected from my Hispanic counterparts. In my town, if you're Mexican, you came here to work with either a hammer or broom in your hand. My classmates make horrible jokes about people of Mexican descent and I'm the only Mexican in the grade. People don't even know my name, they just refer to me as Victor. In history class, the teacher said that Mexico was taken over by the Spaniards because the Mayans were weak. I couldn't speak up, I couldn't say anything. My mom has a decent amount of money, so we aren't as economically deprived as other Chicanos. Everyday is basically the same. Come home, sleep, eat, wake, go to the hell that is school, repeat. No fun on weekends, no one to hangout with. Now I can understand what my father was talking about when he was telling me about the Mexican experience in the United States. He told me about lots of alienation. I'm starting to think that the world is a great place if you're white. I wonder if I should leave home and try and to make it on my own. Psh. I doubt it. From what I've seen and experienced in the media, socially, and geopolitically, you whites have it better than any other minority on the planet.
Psychology - 5 Answers
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1 :
dude, what the hell are you talking about? being white may have some small perks but life sucks for us too on way or another
2 :
I'm sorry that you feel so out of place and get treated so poorly by some people. Let me tell you though that white people, or all people in general regardless of ethnicity, are not the same. It must be the area where you live since it is predominantly white and they are conditioned to view people a certain way. It is unfair to you but that is how life works. Everyone is discriminated against in some part of the world and unfortunately that cannot be changed. Just know that you're not alone, the people who surround you now do not represent the total white population, and you will have a chance to change things. I don't know how old you are now, but finish your eduction before you do anything else. Do the best that you can, don't let the ignorant comments phase you, be yourself and you will be fine. When you have the education and the means to move someplace else than do so, but don't just run away before you're ready. Good luck and don't let other people's ignorance get you down. And just know that being white does not necessarily make one's life easier.
3 :
If you're not out of school, you might be better off looking for things to do outside of school. Don't quit school and leave home and try to make it on your own just because you feel uncomfortable. Ask to talk to your principal and mention discrimination and prejudice when you go into that private meeting and say that you do not feel that you can get an adequate education if you are subjected to racism (trick is to name specific incidents so start writing them down.) He or she will have to stop the racist garbage or you could get ACLU involved. There are huge movements in Chicano/Latino groups and see if you can't get your mom to take you to events that they put on, on the weekends. Eventually you will be able to see that you can do things that will fight the prejudiced thinking of your classmates with help from those groups. Not everyone is prejudiced. Teenagers are just naturally cruel for a few years before you all become human again. The world is no better if you're white or not. Reach out to all the Chicano/Latino groups you can right now, they will help you come to terms with your heritage and give you ways to fight the hatred. Also, talk to your dad, but ask him how he deals with it. It's not fine that he's had to deal with alienation but just the same how did/does he deal with it? Good luck Victor. I wish you well.
4 :
Okay, first off, I have to say--you sound very intelligent, so you get kudos straight off. The first commentor was wrong; it's true that whites have it easier, because the world is very tilted (yes, even in 'modern' society). I'm white, and I totally agree with you. That does not mean that we're deserving, or that any other race is undeserving. It's just that people are idiots and some whites truly believe they are better, and try to act better, than everyone else. And I'm sorry that you feel out of sorts and out of place. That's not fair, at all. But from what I can tell, you really have the makings to break away from the 'downsides' of your racial identity (I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being Hispanic, I'm just saying that it can be harder for you, because people act as though you've got to PROVE you're worth something before you are, unlike whites--who are, apparently, worth something even if they do nothing with themselves. HA, what a joke--It's ignorant, but it's the way many people are.) Mexicans are alienated because the media gives them a bad rap, makes them out to be criminals and drug lords and the like. So many people don't even take the time to get to KNOW Hispanics, and if they did, they'd learn that they are fine people. What I'm saying is, you can do whatever you set yourself to. Trust me, you can. I'm just a sixteen year old girl, but I'm a good judge of character, and you've got your feet on the ground. Get the best education you can--that will open so many doors, and no one can shut them (no matter how ignorant they are). If you do that, I promise, you can make it on your own. Focus on your talents, find activities that you enjoy--reach out to others, even if they are jerks, and you'll get far. School can be a drag, especially when you're different. But grin and bear it. Find good friends outside of school if you must, and you won't regret it. Good luck, Victor. (Perhaps your name has more significance than you think, neh?) ~Jen
5 :
tons of people feel this way and I do have to agree to a certain extent about whites being better off, but that's just those stupid rich, old-ass MFers that take everyone else's money. A LOT of white people are doing really bad. Like my family, I go to work for me and I help my parents and give them 100 a month and I'm 16. We don't have it better off than anyone else.
Hello. I have been feeling quite lonely these past few weeks. Actually, it's been persisting for several years, on and off. My name is Victor. I live in Southern California, with my mother. The place I live in is probably one of the whiter communities in So Cal. My mother separated from my dad when I was little. I'm guessing they felt the relationship vibe for a little while, then they just split. I noticed this happens to some interracial relationships. You see, my father is Mexican and my mother's parents come from Norway and Ireland. I guess that makes me biracial, but in the eyes of my school, I'm Hispanic. I remember one time my mother came to a student-teacher conference, and they asked where my mother was and I said that was here and they then said "Don't be silly, that's some random woman." As I said before, I live in one of the whiter communities in Southern California. I visit my dad sometimes on weekends in Lincoln Heights, a largely Mexican-American area, however the visitation is limited. I live with my mother the other times and I feel disconnected from my Hispanic counterparts. In my town, if you're Mexican, you came here to work with either a hammer or broom in your hand. My classmates make horrible jokes about people of Mexican descent and I'm the only Mexican in the grade. People don't even know my name, they just refer to me as Victor. In history class, the teacher said that Mexico was taken over by the Spaniards because the Mayans were weak. I couldn't speak up, I couldn't say anything. My mom has a decent amount of money, so we aren't as economically deprived as other Chicanos. Everyday is basically the same. Come home, sleep, eat, wake, go to the hell that is school, repeat. No fun on weekends, no one to hangout with. Now I can understand what my father was talking about when he was telling me about the Mexican experience in the United States. He told me about lots of alienation. I'm starting to think that the world is a great place if you're white. I wonder if I should leave home and try and to make it on my own. Psh. I doubt it. From what I've seen and experienced in the media, socially, and geopolitically, you whites have it better than any other minority on the planet.
Psychology - 5 Answers
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1 :
dude, what the hell are you talking about? being white may have some small perks but life sucks for us too on way or another
2 :
I'm sorry that you feel so out of place and get treated so poorly by some people. Let me tell you though that white people, or all people in general regardless of ethnicity, are not the same. It must be the area where you live since it is predominantly white and they are conditioned to view people a certain way. It is unfair to you but that is how life works. Everyone is discriminated against in some part of the world and unfortunately that cannot be changed. Just know that you're not alone, the people who surround you now do not represent the total white population, and you will have a chance to change things. I don't know how old you are now, but finish your eduction before you do anything else. Do the best that you can, don't let the ignorant comments phase you, be yourself and you will be fine. When you have the education and the means to move someplace else than do so, but don't just run away before you're ready. Good luck and don't let other people's ignorance get you down. And just know that being white does not necessarily make one's life easier.
3 :
If you're not out of school, you might be better off looking for things to do outside of school. Don't quit school and leave home and try to make it on your own just because you feel uncomfortable. Ask to talk to your principal and mention discrimination and prejudice when you go into that private meeting and say that you do not feel that you can get an adequate education if you are subjected to racism (trick is to name specific incidents so start writing them down.) He or she will have to stop the racist garbage or you could get ACLU involved. There are huge movements in Chicano/Latino groups and see if you can't get your mom to take you to events that they put on, on the weekends. Eventually you will be able to see that you can do things that will fight the prejudiced thinking of your classmates with help from those groups. Not everyone is prejudiced. Teenagers are just naturally cruel for a few years before you all become human again. The world is no better if you're white or not. Reach out to all the Chicano/Latino groups you can right now, they will help you come to terms with your heritage and give you ways to fight the hatred. Also, talk to your dad, but ask him how he deals with it. It's not fine that he's had to deal with alienation but just the same how did/does he deal with it? Good luck Victor. I wish you well.
4 :
Okay, first off, I have to say--you sound very intelligent, so you get kudos straight off. The first commentor was wrong; it's true that whites have it easier, because the world is very tilted (yes, even in 'modern' society). I'm white, and I totally agree with you. That does not mean that we're deserving, or that any other race is undeserving. It's just that people are idiots and some whites truly believe they are better, and try to act better, than everyone else. And I'm sorry that you feel out of sorts and out of place. That's not fair, at all. But from what I can tell, you really have the makings to break away from the 'downsides' of your racial identity (I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being Hispanic, I'm just saying that it can be harder for you, because people act as though you've got to PROVE you're worth something before you are, unlike whites--who are, apparently, worth something even if they do nothing with themselves. HA, what a joke--It's ignorant, but it's the way many people are.) Mexicans are alienated because the media gives them a bad rap, makes them out to be criminals and drug lords and the like. So many people don't even take the time to get to KNOW Hispanics, and if they did, they'd learn that they are fine people. What I'm saying is, you can do whatever you set yourself to. Trust me, you can. I'm just a sixteen year old girl, but I'm a good judge of character, and you've got your feet on the ground. Get the best education you can--that will open so many doors, and no one can shut them (no matter how ignorant they are). If you do that, I promise, you can make it on your own. Focus on your talents, find activities that you enjoy--reach out to others, even if they are jerks, and you'll get far. School can be a drag, especially when you're different. But grin and bear it. Find good friends outside of school if you must, and you won't regret it. Good luck, Victor. (Perhaps your name has more significance than you think, neh?) ~Jen
5 :
tons of people feel this way and I do have to agree to a certain extent about whites being better off, but that's just those stupid rich, old-ass MFers that take everyone else's money. A LOT of white people are doing really bad. Like my family, I go to work for me and I help my parents and give them 100 a month and I'm 16. We don't have it better off than anyone else.
Sunday, July 1, 2012
is the nobel prize , obamas payoff?
is the nobel prize , obamas payoff?
Whether it was rewarding Jimmy Carter for criticizing the Iraq War or supporting Al Gore in his crusade against global warming, the Norwegian Parliament - which chooses the winners of the Nobel Peace Prize - has sought to use the award as a political tool to influence American politic s. Its prestige and moral power make the prize a potent weapon with which to help steer the direction of the colossus beyond the seas that controls a quarter of the world’s economy and most of its military power. Now, the Norwegians have weighed in to support Barack Obama in his bid to reshape America so it looks more like, well, Norway, or at least like Europe. European socialism cannot succeed without conquering the United States. If the European Union has high taxes and the US keeps its levies low, business and brains will flow to America. If the EU’s labor standards require long vacations, high benefits, and proscribe layoffs and ours’ do not, employers will migrate across the ocean to do their business in the States. If the Old World curbs ambition by taxation, regulation, and social opprobrium, the ambitious will flock to the New World as they have done for four hundred years. So, Lenin was right. Socialism cannot exist in just one country - or one continent. It must dominate worldwide or wealth and power will flow to those who remain committed to the free market. Europe realizes this reality and it makes Obama’s election as president of the United States all the more welcome. The Nobel Prize is really Obama’s payback for disciplining the unruly United States and taming it to be a member of the European family of nations. Europe wants to reverse the American Revolution and re-colonize us and it sees in Obama a kindred spirit willing to do its bidding. Does the United States let its entrepreneurs run wild, coming up with fanciful new ideas and making billions from them? Obama will regulate and subdue business just like they do in Europe. Do U.S. businesses compete by slashing prices, aggressively pursuing markets, and jockeying for market share? Obama will make them behave themselves and stay in line just like European companies do. Do Americans work hard and push aggressively to make as much money as they can? Obama will raise taxes, emphasize community values, and narcotize their ambition by offering government largesse. And does the United States still believe in a sloppy, contrarian democracy in which ordinary people can directly affect their government, states have powers, and courts can reel in executive authority? Obama will use his rubber stamp majority in Congress to pass new laws regardless of public opinion and make us obey. In foreign policy, is the United States still willing to stand up, alone if necessary, to protect human rights in Bosnia, in Iraq, and in Afghanistan? Obama will curb this unruly independence and mold it within the fabric of appeasement that has dominated Europe for the past half a century. All this heavy lifting, this conversion of America into a European state, deserves a reward. And what is a more fitting one than to give Obama than the Nobel Peace Prize? He obviously doesn’t deserve the award for economics or, given his health care ideas, for medicine. But the Peace Prize expresses Europe’s longing: to
Politics - 2 Answers
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the Norwegians who are socialists were just buying some policies that they knew Conrade 0bama was going to do , it is disgraceful there is no creditability to the prize what so ever and I would say that the Norwegians have displaced a total lack of ethics
2 :
You Betcha !!!
Whether it was rewarding Jimmy Carter for criticizing the Iraq War or supporting Al Gore in his crusade against global warming, the Norwegian Parliament - which chooses the winners of the Nobel Peace Prize - has sought to use the award as a political tool to influence American politic s. Its prestige and moral power make the prize a potent weapon with which to help steer the direction of the colossus beyond the seas that controls a quarter of the world’s economy and most of its military power. Now, the Norwegians have weighed in to support Barack Obama in his bid to reshape America so it looks more like, well, Norway, or at least like Europe. European socialism cannot succeed without conquering the United States. If the European Union has high taxes and the US keeps its levies low, business and brains will flow to America. If the EU’s labor standards require long vacations, high benefits, and proscribe layoffs and ours’ do not, employers will migrate across the ocean to do their business in the States. If the Old World curbs ambition by taxation, regulation, and social opprobrium, the ambitious will flock to the New World as they have done for four hundred years. So, Lenin was right. Socialism cannot exist in just one country - or one continent. It must dominate worldwide or wealth and power will flow to those who remain committed to the free market. Europe realizes this reality and it makes Obama’s election as president of the United States all the more welcome. The Nobel Prize is really Obama’s payback for disciplining the unruly United States and taming it to be a member of the European family of nations. Europe wants to reverse the American Revolution and re-colonize us and it sees in Obama a kindred spirit willing to do its bidding. Does the United States let its entrepreneurs run wild, coming up with fanciful new ideas and making billions from them? Obama will regulate and subdue business just like they do in Europe. Do U.S. businesses compete by slashing prices, aggressively pursuing markets, and jockeying for market share? Obama will make them behave themselves and stay in line just like European companies do. Do Americans work hard and push aggressively to make as much money as they can? Obama will raise taxes, emphasize community values, and narcotize their ambition by offering government largesse. And does the United States still believe in a sloppy, contrarian democracy in which ordinary people can directly affect their government, states have powers, and courts can reel in executive authority? Obama will use his rubber stamp majority in Congress to pass new laws regardless of public opinion and make us obey. In foreign policy, is the United States still willing to stand up, alone if necessary, to protect human rights in Bosnia, in Iraq, and in Afghanistan? Obama will curb this unruly independence and mold it within the fabric of appeasement that has dominated Europe for the past half a century. All this heavy lifting, this conversion of America into a European state, deserves a reward. And what is a more fitting one than to give Obama than the Nobel Peace Prize? He obviously doesn’t deserve the award for economics or, given his health care ideas, for medicine. But the Peace Prize expresses Europe’s longing: to
Politics - 2 Answers
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1 :
the Norwegians who are socialists were just buying some policies that they knew Conrade 0bama was going to do , it is disgraceful there is no creditability to the prize what so ever and I would say that the Norwegians have displaced a total lack of ethics
2 :
You Betcha !!!
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