Somebody, Anybody, Please ='(?
I was with my boyfriend sense 11/1/08 its been 2 years and 10 days. Im a young adult I have my life very planned out. we broke up because we had very different views of things, probably because he's 19 and im 17 so our minds are at a little bit different stages I understand that. I feel like were suppose to be together. We were always faithful, we had alot of respect for one another, he wasn't a nasty guy only wanting sex, he was a very non sexual guy and that's very rare and we trusted each other 100%. we had everything going but we broke up last night because we just weren't happy and he felt we were to different to ever agree we were raised different he was raised by a strict family with alot of money and I was raised by my single mom moving from appt. to appt. his grandma is royalty from norway. So you see the differences. I never had the opportunity to go out and ski or snowboard or go wake boarding like meeting him opened up a new way of life and more experiences for me. and i feel like everything just got taken from me we still love eachther. the only thing that prevented us from being together is that we would argue about things like little things that we just veiwed differently, like our careers i want to model and i know i would get far, he wants to be an airplane machenic, I rely on my looks he works very hard for his money, like were just different. We were highschool sweethearts and i know there was a study about how highschool sweethearts end up married if they run into eachother later in their 20's. do you think that can be us? I just basically want to know if i should hold on like keep my feelings for the future we left on pretty good terms and were going out to dinner tonight i just dont know my limits. can we still kiss? do I still say I love you? although he did make it clear no sexual activity at this time because it might be to hard on us. but how do I act I've never had a guy friend. I'm the girl all the guys want a peice of and he was one to respect me and not act like that. but i just dont know how to act like a "friend" after 2 years of such strong and pure love.
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It's gonna be okay. This must be hard on you both. People change as they grow older, and they can grow together or apart. Anyways, you've been with him for over 2 years, so you must be pretty comfortable with him. Tonight at dinner you should talk to him. Don't try to act different, I act pretty much the same around my girl and guy friends. Talk to him about what you two can and can't do now. You don't want to confuse yourselves by being too physical with him. Only you guys can figure out if its okay for you guys to kiss, say I love you, etc., or if you'll just end up confused. Don't fight with him, be mature and understanding. Just figure out with him what's right and what's not for you guys, and do it calmly. Also, talk about if you would want to get back together at some point later on or not. Things change, so don't hold it against each other if something changes, but just get it all out there in the open about what is going on in both of your minds right now. Are you guys really broken up? Does he want a break or a real-deal breakup? What do you want? Is it okay to do things with other guys? Will you be upset if he's with another girl? You guys need to talk about these things. What is best for the both of you? Make sure you don't leave confused, get it all out there so you both understand. And stay calm, mature, and understanding. Try your best not to argue or get mad. I would atleast stay friends with him. You guys invested a lot of time into your relationship, and he is probably one of the closest people to you. Maybe you guys could still hangout and have fun together. Definitely stay in contact. But also focus on other people. You're young. Do you want to just have this guy on your mind? Do you want to see what it's like with other guys? You need to think about all of these things. I would suggest hanging out with your girlfriends a lot and making some friends too that are just guys. Not romantic, keep it strictly on a friend level. Guy friends are great! Focus on school, modeling, family, religion, whatever makes you happy. But yeah, definitely stay in contact and stay friends with this guy. It's definitely possible that you guys could get back together later on in your 20's, especially if you stay in touch. Trust God and Christ that if it's meant to be, it'll find a way to work. If not, something better is in store for you. So don't count on getting back, but remember that anything is possible. To sum it all up, talk to him and get it all out there. And it's possible for you two to be together, but don't count on it. Explore your other options as well. But definitely stay friends with him. But focus on other people and parts of your life too, don't invest all of your time in him. It'll be hard at first because you're probably used to constantly being around him, but you'll get used to it. Good luck!
