Should i hate my mom for this?
Hey, I'm a 16-year old boy from Norway, living in Oslo. Here's the "rules" my mom gives me: [1] Always 1 hour (or more) physical activity EVERY day. [2] I have to wash all the floors in our 3-stories tall house twice a week, plus drying dust (or whatever it's called) [3] I have to make dinner at least twice a week. I have friends and all, but mostly I play on my laptop (We actually do have wireless, but she doesn't know. She thinks I'm playing an offline game. BUT don't be distracted by it, what she thinks is most important for considering who's "side" you're on..) For the 1st rule, I'd like to add that walking does not count. If I've been to school and have had no gymnastics, I have to run around a water near our house for an hour. Rain/snow/even ice? She doesn't care. I can't fake it, cause I have to take pictures with my phone, and bla bla. Just not possible faking. I've tried… For the 2nd rule: If there is a SINGLE little piece of anything at all on the floor when I've washed, she will get furious. She is never happy, even if I've done it perfectly. Same with the 3rd rule, if I fail in any way while making the dinner, she gets furious. And she's never happy. And here are the punishments i get / have gotten for being "disobeying" [1] I do not have access internet (well, she doesn't give me access and thats the point!), from now on and for the next 4 years. Hardly anything I do can change this, and if it changes, it's maybe by a day or two (she counts) [2] If I'm not in physical activity 1 hour a day she takes my laptop to work for 2 days. I bought it fo my own money (which was NOT from her) for about 2.2000 euros. [3] Not really a punishment, but she's angry with me almost all the time. And here's one of the things that piss me off the most: I have a brother at the age of 14. He does not have ANY demands at ALL. He does not do a single thing in the house (I have to wash his room). He once threatened me with a real knife. He held it half an inch from my throat. Ever since, it's been cold between us. I'm not very strong, and he is (considering his age). But we've fought some times since the knife episode and just because I'm older i guess i have a little "technical advantage". He starts it every time (yeah, like you haven't heard that one before, but you'll just have to believe me). In the worst episode after the knife, he needed 3 stiches in the back of his head. That time it started with me taking the remote and he instantly punching me in the face, breaking my glasses. Well, he asked for it. He's the one with the bad temper, so don't go on about any "rage management" for me :) Mom knows of the knife episode, and still even though my bro does nothing in the house and he has no demands (he gets the internet etc) she's always happy and frieldy to him. I know jealousy is bad, but come ON!? I just finished the 3rd of 3 years in… dunno what it is in english, but we have 7 years of "children school" and then 3 years of "youth school" (whereI i just finished) and then 2-3-5 new years, depending on what you want to become. Overall grades I'm the 2nd best in all the school with an average of 5.35 (scales are from 1-6). She doesn't care. The school has about 500 ppl. Well, I tried making it short… If you really bothered reading through all this, thanks alot. But if you're gonna say that I'm a spoiled brat: Compared to other Norwegian teenagers, I'm given more demands, WAY less rewards, and WAYY more punishment. And I also probably forgot something, but this'll do.
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1 :
didnt finish reading this but u need to STAND UP TO HER... n u should never hate ur moommy (:
2 :
Poor you! You are SO hard done by. NOT.
3 :
LOL and who cleans you poo poo everyday when your a little baby
4 :
I'm not going to tell you if you should hate YOUR mother or not. However, if it was MY mother. Yes, I probably would hate her.
5 :
Do you have the equivalent of social services in Norway? Even if you do, you should be telling this to real people in real life. As many as you can. Hopefully, adults. The cleaning and punishments, while not fair, will make you stronger and more disciplined. But the knife? Na, draw the line there. Someone needs to know. Now.
6 :
First of all, moms can be that cruel(I would know im 15) They always seem to have an excuse but to us its nothing. I'm sorry that you mom is babying your brother that good. I feel that way with my two brothers. Mom makes me do things around the house(literally for nothing) Brothers do a little and get a lot of credit Maybe shes just trying to put structure into your life Hang on, maybe things will get better Don't hate hate her, its never good to hate just talk to her about this, let her know how your really feeling. Hope this works(:
7 :
I think you need to talk to someone about the situation, an older family member or a school counselor. What she's doing isn't really fair and quite emotionally damaging. She might have a reason for treating you this way that needs sorting. Maybe she had a bad time when she was pregnant with you and you remind her of that time. I'm not saying this is acceptable for her behaviour just that there might be a reason for her behaviour. What she is doing is mostly unfair because your brother does not have to do the same, if you were both doing these chores then it would be perfectly acceptable to ask you to help around the house. However, the running thing is a bit weird as if it was that she wanted you to keep fit and healthy then surely she'd want your brother to do it too and she doesn't care about your grades... soooo yeah weird. I would just refuse to do it. let her take your lap top and pretend like you don't care or hide it if you can. You need to stand up to her! As for your brother, brothers fight but putting a knife up to your throat is unacceptable next time he does that call the police. Maybe that will teach him a lesson. Just keep doing as well as your doing at school and just think one day, not so far away, you'll have a good job and will be able to move out. Your mum will no longer have control over you and your brother will probably be in prison! Look to the future :) Edited to add: Your own feelings will determine whether you hate your mum or not. I can't tell you how to feel but I wouldn't be surprised if you said you did hate her.
8 :
Call social services, this is not responsibility, it's slavery.
9 :
She' given you a roof over your head, she makes you food everyday, she cleans your clothes and ass (well when you we're baby) everyday and much more and your bitching about cleaning ? wow people are so ungrateful these days. (I didnt read all of it)
